Hello - just wondering if anyone can help me?

[concernedbigsister]

Hello - I am a 'concerned big sister' and hoping that anyone can help me! I live in Australia and there doesn't seem to be a lot of support groups here. My younger sister who is 28 has ADD - diagnosed about 4 years ago. At first, the Ritalin worked wonders for her and she was a changed person. However, the past 12 months she has gone down hill and nothing we say or do can get through to her. She married 12 months ago and I wonder if the pressures of married life are too much for her. We can barely talk to her - she doesn't even look at you when you talk to her - she gazes out the window or the TV etc. She has put on abot 15 kg in the last few months and seems to be always overeating - yet when we confront her she makes up excues. Her personal hygiene has a lot to be desired - she will wear dirty clothes again and again and again thus meking her smell dirty. I am truly worried about her - but I don't know what to do. I wonder if her husband understands the full extent of her ADD and fear that he'll have had enough soon. She 'tells us' he is going to her psychologist but honestly she is on the decline I wonder how he can't see that and do something about. I know that have financial problems and also wonder if she goes and takes her medicine because it is so expensive - however that shouldn't be a problem as my parents have offered to continue paying for her medication and doctor visits just to see her well again.

Can anyone give me some ideas on how to help me? I wonder if I am being too interfering and should back off, but then I worry that something terrible will happen and wish that I had of stepped in.

Please help!
Thanks!

[annie girl]

hi , not to alarm you more, she might be considered depressed, she should see her doctor or maybe you could suggest her to take a free test on depression through the computer,just because the results are in as
being depress the person is encouraged to see a doctor, I hope everything goes well, your sister is lucky to have you to care about her, sometimes people who have these illnesses, do not have support from family members, I should know, ive been there., take care,
Annie girl

[Kim]

When you sink into depression, the first step to help is the most difficult and overwhelming feeling, and with ADD well it feels impossible. Make her an appt. with her doc, and pick her up and stay with her and help her. She just can't muster up the energy if she is as depressed as I have been.